Letting others see me when I'm at my best and my worst is what makes transparency difficult. Revealing my fears, hurts and mistakes while owning it all, may sound simple but it's not easy.
No Masks, No Walls
Transparency means I'm not what others tell me or want me to be, I'm only what I was put on this earth to be. No masks to project and no walls to protect. Transparency brings struggle but provides strength and imparts patience, tolerance and compassion. It truly does strengthen one. The trials of transparency are often things we try to avoid but learn to value as we mature. Kind of like the broccoli and spinach we hate as kids but enjoy as adults.
Transparency Leads to Trust
Being transparent means I am clear about who I am, what my beliefs are and what I stand for. It is an active autonomous choice I choose each day. For if I can’t trust to expose the raw me, how can I expect others to trust me? Without trust, there really is nothing. When our time on this earth is done, all one can do is trust that we accomplished what we were put on this earth for, because no one can see what's on the other side. Transparency really is clearer than glass and stronger than steel!
by Bonnie Penner
My journey here on this earth has taught me that every life experience I encounter generates an emotion I feel, positive or negative. Initial emotions are neither right nor wrong, they just are. However, what I believe about my experience will create a state of being attached to an outcome that I am responsible for. I’ve learned there are only two choices to make when encountering any emotion. They are ‘Surrender’ or ‘Control’ and because they’re polar opposites, they cannot be chosen simultaneously. Therefore, the Truth is, it's all about the CHOICE I CHOOSE to attach to the emotion I’ve encountered because of the life experience I've had.
What's Your Belief?
If I choose to surrender, the natural result of my belief (to surrender) is a state of peace, no matter the end result of my life experience. Being in a state of peace naturally opens gateways for solutions to materialize at the right time and in the best way. If I choose to exercise my power to control, then the natural outcome of my belief (to control) is a state of disharmony that creates roadblocks which stop answers from actualizing and breeds ongoing troubles.
I’ve learned being human means I have a tendency to create expectations around how, what and when solutions materialize. I’ve discovered that if my expectations are obstructed or blocked I experience additional emotions, which are usually anger and frustration. Sadly, it's my pride that regularly stops me from recognizing I am the one who created the expectation that built the limiting walls which boxed in and closed off a solution from materializing. Resolution to this issue is of course to circle back; to surrender and fight for my right to choose and actively come to the end of my self-created expectation.
The Surrendight Choice
I created a new word to describe the above process because when I searched the dictionary for a term that communicated the concept, I came up empty handed. Surrendight is the combination of the two words, surrender and fight. One must surrender in order to trust, and must fight in order to surrender, hence the word Surrendight.
By definition Surrendight is the art of mastering surrender and fight simultaneously. It is to surrender what you have no power over and fight for the one thing you do have a choice in, that of course being the right to choose to surrender. It truly is an art because you are utilizing your ability to war without weapons, clothed only by your determination to seek and find Truth!
Becoming aware of and accepting Truth generates a natural resolve to trust which creates Vision and generates solutions that once seemed impossible. Focusing on a problem, issue or an expected outcome limits actualization of new realities but restricting expectations and trusting Truth opens doorways to endless possibilities.
by Bonnie Penner
I've learned that understanding the difference between trust and expectations is crucial .
Trust = Unconditional Expectation
Trust at its core is an unconditional expectation or more simply put, an unrestricted belief in the integrity of someone or something. A great example of trust is ones willingness to jump on a trampoline. You trust that the trampoline has been engineered to handle the weight and tension bouncing creates, so you climb on and jump.
Expectation = Premeditated Resentment
An expectation, apart from trust, can be labeled as a premeditated resentment or an assumption that disappoints. When the outcome your expectation creates is different than you imagined, a resentment is generated. To be clear it’s not unreasonable to have an expectation, it’s what you choose to do with your expectation once it's not been met that makes the difference.
If you remain humble and fluid when an expectation falters, you will continue to be at peace because you trust in the Truth that there is always an answer. This is why I pray every morning, "Help me embrace struggle, so Truth is revealed, acceptance achieved, expectations adjusted, no matter the outcome."
Sadly, if you choose to hold onto your expectation, not only will you be disappointed you will likely feel upset, angry and/or sad. Once your premeditated resentment takes over, there really is no way for a positive outcome to materialize.
In these uncertain times, I encourage everyone to pray this prayer, so you can have the peace that passes all understanding which only trust in Truth can bring.
by Bonnie Penner
In my life I have suffered greatly. A long time ago I made a promise that if I was given the opportunity to live a vibrant, healthy life I would choose to serve others. This Vision is what sustains me in all I do; it flows through me and from me. I work from the end of my life backwards to serve others I may never get to meet.
My Vision many times has been perceived by those around me as a dream. This perception however is incorrect and causes confusion. There is a difference between working to fulfill a dream or being engaged in Vision. Knowing the difference is crucial and is why I do what I do; it can help you achieve incredible things too!
Problems do not deter or weaken me, they excite and inspire me. They create a strength to continue towards the Vision I've been entrusted with. When I encounter trials they create a STRENGTH in me like NOTHING I've ever known. How else can Vision be proven true except to go through the refining fire!
by Bonnie Penner